Respect Yourself

Don’t compromise yourself. You’re all you’ve got. — Betty Ford

The woman

whose husband abandoned her

and their children

and their debts

for a young hottie

and moved out of state

with no forwarding address….

…has struggled

To find her own two feet.

To stand on her own

Oh to be rescued!

What a powerful compelling temptation

Only to discover

That rescuers need rescuing themselves.

Stop the madness.



Find your soul

Give yourself time to grieve

To heal

To discover your own heart.

You are stronger than you think.

Your old life is gone.

It will never come back.

Let it go, and good riddance.

Embrace your new life.

Discover who you are.

Mine the resource in your soul.

Receive the Gift of Grace on your life.

Find your gratitude.

Find your strength.

Stand up.

There are worse things

Than being alone

and you are not alone.

Love your children.

“But my children need a father.”

But their father is gone.


God is their Father

He will provide.

What they DON’T need

Is a revolving door of rescuers.

What they DO need




Learning to trust in God.

All in good time

They will learn to love themselves

And so will you

And you will love again

For the first time.


3 responses to this post.

  1. This was great, Fawn. My good friend has been learning these things the past four years and I am blessed to see her growing in realizing that she is complete, even alone. Her and God–what an amazing team as she finishes raising her children and as she walks through this Life. As always, thanks for your comments at my blog–I very much appreciate them. Blessings, Debra


  2. I think these are so right on, and yet so hard to accept for a young woman who is desperate to be loved. I might have to get this, and after I read it, share it with a certain someone I know, who needs a bit of encouragement in that direction. Thanks for the recommendation. 🙂


    • Posted by fawngilmorekraut on June 11, 2010 at 2:52 pm

      Thanks for your comment. I know how difficult this is after my many years as a single woman. Holding on to our own integrity and values, not compromising ourselves, waiting…. waiting…. waiting… for the real thing. It’s a challenging journey, and not for the faint at heart. But there can be joy in the journey, and there’s no greater reward than to love and to be loved for exactly who you are.


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